A Crossroads Moment
Today, I return from several weeks of Lenten retreat with a question for you, my dear readers.
What, as we resume “life as normal” do you need? How can this space that I create each week with words, and possibly new offerings, serve the dimensions of you that have come newly alive during the pandemic?
I have some ideas (below), and very much invite your input.
Read on!
A wise woman recently shared a teaching she received years ago on pilgrimage to Iona Abbey in Mull, Scotland. During a walk around its sacred sites, her guide stopped at a crossroads.
He told them, “Don’t be in too much of a hurry to leave your crossroads. Take your time.”
He meant: absorb the sacred resonances and implications of your choices.
Crossroads moments speak a unique language — of pause, possibility, of dream and desire, longing and fear, that no other space in our lives does.
Crossroads can be uncomfortable. Each time we choose one thing, we must let others go. In starting out on one path, we leave others untrod.
We know that we are approaching such a moment, in our collective and personal lives.
We watch the news to see what commercial ventures and travel opportunities will soon open.
And yet — we also openly discuss our dread of returning to “the way things were.”
This morning I invite you to take a few moments to consider these questions:
1. What “goods” have you discovered (or rediscovered) in this time of enforced “retreat?”
2. What are you glad or relieved to have let go of?
3. What has sustained you, in ways you didn’t expect?
4. What has come to be precious, and which you need support in preserving, as life’s demands resume?
—- Many of us have discovered our great hunger for a slower pace.
—- For the long gulps of solitude and silence that our days in quarantine or lockdown have provided.
—- Our consumption patterns have simplified. Our pleasures have become those of childhood — planting seeds, going on walks to view the sunset, getting to know the resident hawk or squirrels, or neighbors.
—- We newly value meals with loved ones , conversations gone deeper.
We have found what we had lost — the inner space and time to let our imaginations and our souls move around in us, shift and grow and express themselves, in ways we had forgotten were possible.
So, please take a minute to drop me a line here in the Comments section — and read what others write. My hope is that we can enter into conversation about new ways of going forward as the world turns again.
A few possibilities:
— Would you like a regular zoom community time to pray and share?
— What about teachings on prayer and meditation from the masters?
— Perhaps a “spiritual memoir” or “journal” workshop, in our newly-facile zoom world?
— A writing group?
Share your yearnings and hopes and desires.
The world will turn, yes. We can be intentional about how we bring our gifts and desires to a new time.
Diana Carson
March 31, 2021at2:08 pmKathleen, thank you for this. It all resonates deeply with me. I would love to do another writing workshop like the ones that Bethany House was planning until COVID made those impossible. Spiritual journaling is of great interest to me, as is prayer and meditation. All of the above!
Kathleen Hirsch
March 31, 2021at2:13 pmDear Diana, It is so wonderful to hear from you! I’m putting my thoughts together about a spiritual journal circle via zoom, as this has worked beautifully with a Contemplative Writers Group that I facilitate at Bethany House. Stay tuned and thank you for checking in. Happy Easter!
Susan Porter
March 24, 2021at8:46 pmI, too, like the image of a crossroads…and the time to stop and think about what each path might mean!
I have definitely felt the joy of quiet time alone this year. I am very self-contained in many ways; I had forgotten that.
I’ve relished the time baking, writing to friends, keeping my plants happy, contemplating my sleeping garden renewing itself through the winter —just like me! And, I’ve enjoyed time online in ZOOM meetings with friends and family, but I’ve have cleared out a lot of the background static: too much news, too many recommendations for events, books, meetings, classes, etc. I will be more selective with my time commitments in the future.
I have so much gratitude for my women friends who have shared stories, handmade creations, and new explorations and workshop experiences through our monthly ZOOM gatherings.
I have been a fairly frugal person for most of my life, and this year I learned to minimize even more. Books from the library instead of the bookstore, living in the same (comfortable) clothes for months, — my geographic world has shrunk. But, although I hope to stretch beyond my pandemic “perimeter” for walks and visits to friends, I can see keeping things simpler in other ways. More adventures, less stuff!
Kathleen Hirsch
March 25, 2021at7:03 amSusan, your experience resonates so deeply with my own and that of many I know. Simplicity, reduced stimulation from low-quality sources (or just too many of them)…caring for the things and people closest to us, observing nature. We have learned much in this time that we want to continue to cherish and nurture. Thank you for this good food for thought.
Jean Mudge
March 21, 2021at2:03 pmThank you Kathleen, I love thinking about crossroads – it reminds me of a pilgrimage I made in Ireland – we spent time thinking about thresholds – honoring the past the present and the future as we crossed a threshold.
What I yearn for right now is an opportunity to make space for going deeper during my writing time . I am not at all sure what that will look like but I feel a need to create time and space for it.
I would be interested in a Zoom writing workshop / writing group.
Thank you ,
Jean
Kathleen Hirsch
March 25, 2021at7:00 amDear Jean, Thank you, thank you, for sharing your desire for a writing group! This is definitely a threshold time, and as we move (slowly, mindfully, and prayerfully) into a new space, I will hold your desire and continue to contemplate this possibility. Stay in touch!
Gail McMeekin
March 21, 2021at11:32 amHi Kathleen,
What a timely and provocative post for this moment in time and our personal and human evolution. You have given me much to ponder this week! Thank you!
Gail
Kathleen Hirsch
March 25, 2021at6:58 amGail, I’m so glad you have good food for your creative mind!!! Do get back to us here with whatever ideas bubble to the top for you.
Be well!
Nancy Rappaport
March 21, 2021at7:57 amFirst I love the word cross roads. As working with educators I often talk about transitions but that doesn’t capture that right now we are on a trailhead. A cross road. Moments of decision . I have loved the deepening of the inner world, meditation and nature’s solace.
I have loved in my family therapy the ability to slow down the process with zoom . Instead of all being in a room they each have a platform . The intentionality of being seen and close when there are forces for isolation I want to hold onto meeting that longing quietly, deeply and with reverence.
Kathleen Hirsch
March 21, 2021at8:13 amNancy, I love your observation about “slowing down the process” in group therapy with zoom. This is large and has implications going forward. We all need space, and quiet, more than we realized when this all began. You are always good to remind us of the solace of nature, too. Thank you for these wise thoughts today.
Blessings!